Loss and Gain: We Attract Who We Are

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This blog post has nothing to do with weight loss and gain. Hopefully this post has a bit more substance and gets you thinking deeper than that.

When you experience any kind of loss in your life, do you feel saddened by the loss? Are you the kind of person who mourns loss, regardless of how large or small it may be? Loss and gain are really two sides of the same proverbial coin. Let me explain what I mean.

Some people get upset when they someone “unfriends” them on Facebook. I admit it. I used to wonder, “Why did this person unfriend me? What did I do? Why aren’t we friends any more?” Then I realized that many of the so-called “friends” on Facebook aren’t friends at all. They’re acquaintances. And acquaintances don’t always want to read about what you did this past weekend or care who you’re going to vote for in the upcoming election.

Look at it this way. Your friends are your life for a reason. But some friends are in your life only for a season. That is, not everyone who comes into your life is meant to be in your life forever. You may really like those friends but sometimes people just grow apart. Our interests change and friendships are built on common interests. As we change and grow and our interests change, some of our friends just aren’t going to want to be around us any more. That’s just the way it is.

Understand that we will always have loss in our life. That’s the nature of life. Things change. Coastlines change, cliffs erode, buildings age, people die, and so on. The universe is never stagnant. It’s in a constant state of change. Therefor, to focus on something in the past and to get stuck, being afraid to grow and change, is counter-productive. Why? Because the world continues to change around us. The key is to acknowledge and experience the positive change along with the negative.

“We don’t attract what we want. We attract who we are.”

So where does the gain come in?

As we experience loss in our lives, such as losing friends, it makes room for new experiences and new friends to come into our lives. Now here’s the thing. What kind of new things and the kind of new people that come into our lives depends largely on what and who we attract. The way it works is we don’t attract what we want. We attract who we are.

Now you can see the importance of personal development. If we want to attract excited, energetic people into our lives, we need to first become more excited and energetic. If we want to more respectful people in our lives, we must be more respectful to people. Think about the kind of people you like to be around and what kind of people you want in your life. Start being more like those people and you’ll find they’ll start coming into your life.

There are a number of good quotes about loss ad gain. One of my favorites is from Sri Sathya Sai Baba. It goes; “Every experience is a lesson, every loss is a gain.” It’s only through loss that we experience some gains.

One of my personal friends and mentors, John C. Maxwell, teaches that failures never are unless you fail to take something away from the experience. In fact, he wrote an entire book on the topic, titled, Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Learn.

Here’s a short video where I share some more of my thoughts about loss and gain.

For more insights about gain and loss, I recommend two excellent poems. The first is Loss and Gain, a poem by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow. The second poem of the same name is by Ralph Waldo Emerson.

I hope you got value from this training. If you did, please comment below. What have you experienced in your life that illustrates the law of attraction? Let me know by posting a comment below. And please consider sharing this with someone.

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