It’s true. No matter what your mindset, sometimes life throws you a curve ball and you have to deal with some challenging circumstance. That’s a nice way of saying that sometimes life just sucks. Life can beat you down and leaves you curled up on the ground wondering what happened. It’s not a matter of whether or not it will happen. It will happen. What matters in how you respond.
…sometimes life throws you a curve ball and you have to deal with some challenging circumstance. That’s a nice way of saying that sometimes life just sucks.
It’s easy to take the licking and give up on whatever endeavor led you to that result. That’s broke person thinking. Broke as in “having lack”: Lack in finances, lack in work ethic, lack in maturity. Why do I say that? Because it’s true. The average person takes a hit from life and decides what they’re doing is hard and gives up, perhaps even on life itself. Average people do not anticipate life’s blows and so when they come, they are mentally unprepared. Negative self-talk including “Life just sucks,” is literal self-sabotage.
How can you turn life’s tragedies into your triumphs? Be prepared. The successful mindset dictates that we anticipate bad things will happen and prepare for them, mentally or otherwise. That’s not to say that we live in depression and defeat. Far from it. Knowing that life can – and will – hit hard, we can decide ahead of time what meaning we will assign to events and how we will respond to them.
Have you noticed that the best leaders typically stay calm in the face of adversity? Why is that? It’s because they prepared themselves for how to handle adversity. They know the importance of making a decision and taking action when facing one of life’s haymakers, while others are panicking.
Tony Robbins said, “Things do not have meaning. We assign meaning to everything.” What does this mean? It means that when something happens to us, it’s up to us to decide what meaning that event has. We have the ability to find some good for ourselves, perhaps not from the event itself but as a result of the event.
“Things do not have meaning. We assign meaning to everything.” – Tony Robbins
Here’s an example. A few years ago my mother passed away after a short but terminal illness. I went into depression for a time. I described it as being able to live and laugh each day but having no sense of my own future. I compared my lack of vision to looking into the future and seeing only a mist or fog. I had no sense of future. Over time, through personal development, I changed my belief and assigned a new meaning to her death.
Today, while I still miss her terribly, I celebrate her life and remain grateful for all of the positive things she gave me, and I made a decision to grow and become more than I ever had before. Reaching for my full potential was a way I could honor her. The good that came from her passing was my decision to get involved in personal development.
“You have to come to your closed doors before you get to your open doors…”
Joel Osteen, pastor of Lakewood Church, had this to say about setbacks in an interview:
“You have to come to your closed doors before you get to your open doors… What if you knew you had to go through 32 closed doors before you got to your open door? Well, then you’d come to closed door number eight and you’d think, ‘Great, I got another one out of the way’… Keep moving forward. You’re learning from them and you’re one step closer to the open door.”
The next time you are facing a tough circumstance, know that that event does not define you. Your destiny, your potential is so much more. Everything we experience is for our benefit, in terms of providing us an opportunity to grow. Remember, too, when we are in our greatest need, one way to receive is to give to others. An attitude of gratitude, giving and moving forward can carry us through any hardship.
Sometimes life just sucks, plain and simple. There will always be challenges.
The opposite is also true. Sometimes life is wonderful. There will always be successes and joy. As long as you know in advance you can prepare your mind for how you will respond to each and, most importantly, keep moving forward.
Originally published on JoinMeForSuccess.com