Stop Chasing and Start Changing

Image of human figure radiating inner powerNot long ago I came to a realization. I have been doing personal development since last summer, consuming as many books and articles, audio programs and videos as I can get my hands on. There are some fairly common messages among them, which leads one to believe that either all of these writers and speakers are involved in a common, well orchestrated conspiracy to scam the rest of the world… or they all know what they’re talking about when it comes to achieving success.

I believe the latter.

One of the common themes I’ve been observing is that in order for you to be successful you have to undergo personal growth in multiple areas. That is, everyone has a handful of aspects. Here are the “big four”: the physical aspect, the mental aspect, the spiritual aspect, and the emotional aspect. In order to achieve your greatest potential you need to achieve growth in all four of these areas.

I don’t want to linger too long on this point. What’s important to relate in this article is that I have been exploring and growing in all four of these aspects. One of the things I came to realize is that each individual person, regardless of circumstance, has great personal power within them and the only reason people don’t unleash this power is either because they don’t know (or believe) they have it.

When you consider that we are the only true obstacle to our own success, one has to acknowledge that the reverse is also true. We have the ability to achieve whatever it is we believe and set out to achieve. Nothing can stop us. If a situation arises to make something physically impossible, you can’t say “Well that won’t work so I’m giving up.” Successful people find a way over or around the obtacle.

Now this may require them to redefine their specific goal so they can achieve their general goal but the important thing is that they persist. Success depends on consistent action toward achieving the goal. How and why you persist is not the point of this column, but you can do it if you choose.

Tony Robbins said,

photo of Anthony Robbins“I believe life is constantly testing us for our level of commitment, and life’s greatest rewards are reserved for those who demonstrate a never-ending commitment to act until they achieve. This level of resolve can move mountains, but it must be constant and consistent. As simplistic as this may sound, it is still the common denominator separating those who live their dreams from those who live in regret.”

So, back to my realization. I’ve heard it over and over again that we can do whataver we choose to do, that it simply requires action on our part. I believed that principle, of course. Why wouldn’t I? It makes all the sense in the world. The problem was, I didn’t really believe it for myself. Until now.

So many people are looking outward for the “magic bullet” that will put them on the path toward success. They are chasing success, which is unobtainable.

The legendary Jim Rohn, known as a business philospher and a huge proponent of personal development, said,

photo of Jim Rohn“Success is not a doing process, it is a becoming process. What you do, what you pursue, will allude you — it can be like chasing butterflies. Success is something you attract by the person you become.”

The ability – the power – to achieve success is not outside of us. It’s within us.

Instead of reaching outward to try to grab that power, we need to work on ourselves to unleash it. When I really got this concept, an image from a video game flashed in my mind (the game was Infamous). It just made sense. These kinds of life-changing realizations are often so incredibly simple once we “get it.”


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